Like Neo in The Matrix, you have a choice to awaken to the truth of who you are or choose to remain unconscious in your relationships and life. Right now, I invite you to choose: the red or blue pill? Whichever you choose will determine the level of stress and tension you experience in your personal and professional lives.

If you chose the red pill, your path to conscious awareness and finding fulfillment begins now... WAKE UP!

1. Identify your core values

Start by writing down a list of all the values that are important to you, as well as any values you admire in…


Relationships Quarantined

A young woman facetimes her mother complaining about how hard her relationship has been while sheltering in place. She does not know how she is going to make the relationship work and is considering leaving once shelter in place orders are lifted. She is so tired of fighting and struggling.

Her mother takes her iPad into the kitchen and props it up on the shelf so her daughter can watch her fill three pots with water. In the first pot, the mother places a carrot, in the second she places an egg, in the last she places loose tea leaves…


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My husband isn’t the most affectionate man. What he lacks in providing physical comfort, he makes up in kindness, compassion and an attentive nature. He has an incredible ability to anticipate my needs and fulfill them before I end up in reactive mode. I could provide many examples of how he does this, but one that comes to mind is how he helps me to manage ongoing stress. Those who know me well understand that chronic stress is something I have battled my entire life between chronic migraine pain and a Type A personality. I have many tools available to…


Emotional Rollercoaster vs The Long Train Ride

My son’s middle school headmaster told parents as our children transitioned from lower to middle school to not “ride the roller coaster” of emotion with our children, but rather remain on the ground and witness it instead. This was a reassuring metaphor that provided me with a strong visual as my son transitions into adulthood. Many times I have witnessed my son ride the emotional roller coaster of teenhood, unsure of how long it will last. …


Migraine is the 3rd most prevalent illness in the world and affects about 28 million women in the U.S. alone. Nearly 1 in 4 households include someone with migraine and 85% of them are women. More than 90% of sufferers are unable to work or function normally during their migraine and is a public health issue with social and economic consequences. The cost of healthcare and lost productivity associated with migraine is estimated to be as high as $36 billion annually and more than 157 million workdays are lost each year in the U.S. due to migraine disease alone.*

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Teresa Lodato, CPCC

As a Conscious Leadership & Relationship Coach, Author and Speaker, Teresa helps individuals get in deeper relationship with themselves and others.

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